Почему многие люди гордятся тем, что они пожертвовали собой/своими интересами для кого-то?
Если отвечать на этот вопрос очень коротко, то выйдет что-то вроде: «так сложился русский концепт порядочного человека». Но давайте разберёмся подробнее. Почему мы воспринимаем жертвенность как одну из высших добродетелей? Можно капнуть не слишком глубоко и сказать, что в СССР было официальное отрицание материалистического, то есть заинтересованность в себе, а не в общем деле, сконцентрированность на частных интересах и задачах строго порицались главенствующей идеологией. От этого неумение получать деньги за свою работу, отсутствие личной ответственности за результат, идея, что пренебрегать собой – это правильно и прочие «прелести» социалистического строя личности. Оговорюсь, что культивировалось немало хорошего, но мы сейчас не об этом, а о недостатках. Думаю (читай: надеюсь), что несогласных, что жертвенность – скорее недостаток, чем плюс в обыденной жизни, найдётся немного. Ведь жертвенность, да ещё и осознанная, способна разрушить любые человеческие связи. Человек никогда не жертвует просто так, то есть абсолютно бескорыстно. А если партнёр не способен отблагодарить за жертву, то начинаются неизбежные конфликты.
Но давайте копнём поглубже. Вообще жертвенность – это, как мне кажется, элемент аграрного патриархального русского общества, где жить, не совершая каждодневной жертвы собой, своим здоровьем для семьи считалось нормой. И люди жили, скорее жертвуя, чем не жертвуя. Пример: девушку из аристократической семьи выдают замуж за нелюбимого ею, но крайне выгодного для карьеры отца человека. Она не может не покориться, поскольку её брак станет благом для семьи. Другой пример: у крестьянина умирает лошадь и он пашет исключительно собственными силами, чтобы засеять хоть какую-то часть зерна и вырастить урожай на прокорм своей семьи. Привожу немного лубочные и контрастные примеры для того, чтобы было максимально понятно, о чём я.
Но отвлечёмся от прошлого и посомтрим в будущее. Жертвенность передаётся не на генетическом уровне, а через воспитание. Тут очень наглядно воспитание девочек. В России их всё ещё выращивают с мыслью, что замуж необходимо выйти любой ценой (если что, это говорю не я, а компетентный психолог с более чем сорокалетним стаждем Михаил Литвак). И вот она выходит замуж, не реализовав себя, даже не попытавшись найти себя, занимается делами, противоречащими её психопрофессиональному конструкту. Что остаётся? Тешить себя тем, что она себя принесла в жертву мужчине, семье и ребёнку, для поддержания чувства собственной важности.
любимую книжку и чашку горячего шоколада или прогулки по сказочно золотому лесу?» – Яндекс.Кью
Все три варианта прекрасны.
Во время прогулок по лесу можно захватить с собой фотоаппарат. А еще лучше сделать из прогулок с фотоаппаратом хобби. Изучение настроек, обработка фотографий — все это может сильно увлечь не на одну осень и сильно скрасить дождливые и унылые дни, которые непременно последуют за золотой осенью.
Кстати, фотографировать можно и осенний дождик. Может получится очень романтично. Или же наоборот — грустно.
Вот, к примеру, пару кадров (все фото не мои):
Я помню, как однажды осенью мы выбрались в путешествие из Москвы в Санкт-Петербург. Решив объехать пробку в Волочке, мы попали в одно потрясающее место — небольшой пруд, деревья, переливающиеся зелеными, желтыми и красными цветами и уютная церквушка… Место было похоже на такое:
Этот кадр я не запечатлела, но он до сих пор живет в моих воспоминаниях. Именно тогда я решила в будущем выделить время для фотографии.
Книги — прекрасный способ скоротать осенние дни. Только тут, на мой взгляд, нужно выбрать какое-то легкое чтиво…
Например, этой осенью я совершила ошибку. Прочитала книгу «Оскар и розовая дама» — книга о последних днях больного ребенка. Самое тяжелое, что я читала до этого — «Мальчик в полосатой пижаме». После прочтения несколько осенних недель я была в очень подавленном настроении…
И что касается горячего шоколада… Тут у кого что болит, но я бы заменила на какао с корицей на нежирном молоке. Ну просто, чтобы по весне не удивляться лишним сантиметрам. Осень длинная, греться придется часто… Хотя пару кружек шоколада за зиму — самое то! Особенно очень горячего, нежно пахнущего, да в морозец, под медленно падающие снежинки…
Еще шоколад осенью вполне заменят бананы. Они тоже прекрасно поднимают настроение. Или безалкогольный глинтвейн — с наступлением холодов его продают многие кафешки.
Так что осенние вечера можно коротать при свечах за чашечкой какао, просматривая свои фотографии. Прекрасный способ расслабиться.
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90004 May 30, 2011 by SuLi Hoang 90005 90004 Part 1: 90007 Which instrument do you like listening to most? [Why?] 90007 Have you ever learned to play a musical instrument? [Which one?] 90007 Do you think children should learn to play a musical instrument at school? [Why / Why not?] 90007 How easy would it be to learn to play a musical instrument without a teacher? [Why?] 90007 Part 2: 90007 Describe something healthy you enjoy doing.90007 You should say: 90007 what you do 90007 where you do it 90007 who you do it with 90007 and explain why you think doing this is healthy. 90007 Part 3: 90007 Keeping fit and healthy. 90007 What do most people do to keep fit in your country? 90007 How important is it for people to do some regular physical exercise? 90007 Health and modern lifestyles. 90007 Why do some people think that modern lifestyles are not healthy? 90007 Why do some people choose to lead unhealthy lives? 90007 Should individuals or governments be responsible for making people’s lifestyle healthy? 90007 What could be done to encourage people to love in a healthy way? 90007 ►►►►► 90007 NOTES: 90007 IELTS words (22000 từ) 90007 Idioms 90007 Những từ về PROBABILITY 90007 Part 1: 90007 Which instrument do you like listening to most? [Why?] 90007 ► The instrument I like listening to most is harmonica.Firstly, the voice of harmonica is as general as that of the guitar. However, the rhythm of harmonica still has its outstanding things. Secondly, A harmonica is very portable which distinguishes it with others big instruments. Lastly, the price of a harmonica is very cheap. Therefore, you will not be worried of paying an arm and a leg when buying a harmonica. 90007 Have you ever learned to play a musical instrument? [Which one?] 90007 ► I am so unlucky that I have not ever learned to play a musical instrument.Although learning a musical instrument is not just a piece of cake for me, if I have a chance and time to learn it, I will try to do it well. 90007 Do you think children should learn to play a musical instrument at school? [Why / Why not?] 90007 ► In my opinion, it is necessary for children to play a musical instrument at school. Firstly, the reason is the most effective time of learning something new is when we are little children. Secondly, music can improve children’s creation and help them relax after hard studying time.90007 How easy would it be to learn to play a musical instrument without a teacher? [Why?] 90007 ► As I see it, children had better learn to play a musical instrument with a teacher. The reason is that with a teacher, children will learn with a better speed and the teacher can correct their mistakes. It is very difficult to realize our mistakes, especially with children. Next, learning with a teacher can help mitigate the lazy habits of the children. 90007 Part 2: 90007 One of the healthy things I enjoy doing is drinking a lot of water and eating many kinds of fruit.In my opinion, the food and beverage we use daily play a vital part in keeping life healthy. Besides, keeping a healthy life by controlling food and drink habits is quite easy to follow. Every morning as I get up, I drink a glass of water to begin a new day. I tried to drink water as much as possible even when I do not feel thirsty. Water is very important in keeping a healthy and fresh body. Besides, habits of eating a lot of fruit are very effective. Fruits contain many vitamins and even water in them which are necessary for a healthy body.We can have ways galore of making many delicious dishes from fruits such as fresh fruits, fruit juice which make your diet more abundant. I suppose habits of drinking water and eating fruit can be done every where we want to do. Besides, we can do it and other activities simultaneously. I choose this habit to keep healthy because of many reasons. Firstly, this habit is very easy to follow. As I see it, there are many different ways in keeping healthy which require you to have strength to follow.If you have given up and you want to resume, you must back to the old drawing board. Secondly, you do not need to spend a lot of money doing it. Therefore, you will not worry about having to pay an arm and a leg to buy machines or drugs to keep healthy. I think keeping a healthy life is very important to outlast. Therefore, let’s do it right now. 90007 Part 3: 90007 What do most people do to keep fit in your country? 90007 ► In my country, there are many ways to keep fit. They usually do exercise in the morning, which is a very effective way to keep fit.Besides, they do many kinds of sport such as Swimming, jogging, playing badminton and so on. Another popular way is having diet with lots of vegetable. Every method has its own effect. 90007 How important is it for people to do some regular physical exercise? 90007 ► As I see it, doing some regular physical exercise is quite important in keeping fit and become healthy. Firstly, it is easy to follow and you do not have to pay lots of money to do it. Secondly, doing exercise helps you mitigate odd fat in your body, which makes your body slimmer and remains healthy.Lastly, doing it makes you more dynamic and flexible. 90007 Why do some people think that modern lifestyles are not healthy? 90007 ► There are many reasons for this problem. The main reason is the pressure of work and studying. Nowadays, we have to spend too much time on working and studying. Therefore, we do not have much time to relax, do outdoor activities and do exercise. For example, you have to work or study until 1 am or 2 am, I wonder how you can get up early in the morning to do exercise.Another reason is our environment is too polluted, which causes many kinds of diseases. 90007 Why do some people choose to lead unhealthy lives? 90007 ► Why some people choose to lead unhealthy lives is a complicated question. In my opinion, it is because of the need of life. If they want to earn money for a living and surviving, they must work even to forget their healthy. Besides, we can not stand out of the circle of changing of the world. We live in a world and we have to accept what it brought to us.90007 Should individuals or governments be responsible for making people’s lifestyle healthy? 90007 ► I suppose both individuals and governments should be responsible for making people’s lifestyle healthy. However, the most important is in individuals. If you can not protect yourself, no one can protect it for you. Besides, the government should have plans to improve quality of life for their civilians by mitigating pressure of living and holding more efficient outdoor activities for them. 90007 What could be done to encourage people to love in a healthy way? 90007 ► In my opinion, the government should probably have programs to educate their civilians how important to keep healthy.Besides, individuals should be initiative to protect themselves. It is likely that in the future, people will care more of their health when their lives are better. 90005
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90005.90000 IELTS Speaking Part 3 Sample Questions # Living Healthily 90001
90002 Health is one of the most important aspects of our lives and although we tend to ignore it more often, it still remains the backbone of everything we achieve in our lives. This time we are talking about some recent questions asked in Part 3 of the IELTS Speaking about living healthily. 90003
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90002 Times have changed, I believe.There was a time when people stopped caring about their health but I believe in recent times, people have again become more aware of their health. Most people prefer doing some sort of physical activity in their lives to make sure they are healthy. When making small decisions like the food they prefer, people are going for, much healthier foods. 90003
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90002 The ways by which people stay healthy in my country is usually divided into age groups and sometimes their income as well.So, the younger group is usually found in the gym or playing a sport. With age, the older generation prefers walking or jogging along with nature. With different income groups, the higher ones usually have their personal trainers, while the middle of the lower finds out ways for themselves. 90003
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90002 In my opinion, yes people have become more health conscious. It could be because of the influence of their favourite stars or the images that are being portrayed. Even more, with advancement in technology people have very less to do physically, so there has a sense of consciousness among people for their health. 90003
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90002 The best way a child can be taught to have a healthy lifestyle is by showing them how to have one.If we as a society in large, will try to be healthy, every child will adapt to it. Like, a child learns about cigarette only when he or she sees someone lighting a cigarette and likewise if he or she sees someone leading a healthy life, he or she will lead one for himself or herself. 90003
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90002 There are many ways in which modern science and technology have helped, like in curing diseases and making operations better and more successful. However, there have been some negative impacts as well, I believe if we keep focusing on the positive impacts, the negative will surely become minimal.90003
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90002 IELTS Dehradun Uttarakhand Tel: 8439000086 90003
90002 90003 .90000 Ageing and health 90001 People worldwide are living longer. Today, for the first time in history, most people can expect to live into their sixties and beyond. By 2050, the world’s population aged 60 years and older is expected to total 2 billion, up from 900 million in 2015. Today, 125 million people are aged 80 years or older. By 2050, there will be almost this many (120 million) living in China alone, and 434 million people in this age group worldwide. By 2050, 80% of all older people will live in low- and middle-income countries.90002
90003 The pace of population ageing around the world is also increasing dramatically. France had almost 150 years to adapt to a change from 10% to 20% in the proportion of the population that was older than 60 years .However, places such as Brazil, China and India will have slightly more than 20 years to make the same adaptation. 90002 90005
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While this shift in distribution of a country’s population towards older ages — known as population ageing — started in high-income countries (for example in Japan 30% of the population are already over 60 years old), it is now low- and middle- income countries that are experiencing the greatest change.By the middle of the century many countries for e.g. Chile, China, the Islamic Republic of Iran and the Russian Federation will have a similar proportion of older people to Japan. 90002 90005
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A longer life brings with it opportunities, not only for older people and their families, but also for societies as a whole. Additional years provide the chance to pursue new activities such as further education, a new career or pursuing a long neglected passion. Older people also contribute in many ways to their families and communities.Yet the extent of these opportunities and contributions depends heavily on one factor: health. 90002 90005
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If people can experience these extra years of life in good health and if they live in a supportive environment, their ability to do the things they value will be little different from that of a younger person.If these added years are dominated by declines in physical and mental capacity, the implications for older people and for society are more negative. 90005
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At the biological level, ageing results from the impact of the accumulation of a wide variety of molecular and cellular damage over time. This leads to a gradual decrease in physical and mental capacity, a growing risk of disease, and ultimately, death. But these changes are neither linear nor consistent, and they are only loosely associated with a person’s age in years.While some 70 year-olds enjoy extremely good health and functioning, other 70 year-olds are frail and require significant help from others. 90005
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Beyond biological changes, ageing is also associated with other life transitions such as retirement, relocation to more appropriate housing, and the death of friends and partners. In developing a public-health response to ageing, it is important not just to consider approaches that ameliorate the losses associated with older age, but also those that may reinforce recovery, adaptation and psychosocial growth.90005
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90073 90027 Commitment to Healthy Ageing.90028 Requires awareness of the value of Healthy Ageing and sustained commitment and action to formulate evidence-based policies that strengthen the abilities of older persons. 90076
90073 90027 Aligning health systems with the needs of older populations. 90028 Health systems need to be better organized around older people’s needs and preferences, designed to enhance older peoples intrinsic capacity, and integrated across settings and care providers. Actions in this area are closely aligned with other work across the Organization to strengthen universal health care and people-centred and integrated health services.90076
90073 90027 Developing systems for providing long-term care. 90028 Systems of long-term care are needed in all countries to meet the needs of older people. This requires developing, sometimes from nothing, governance systems, infrastructure and workforce capacity. WHO’s work on long-term care (including palliative care) aligns closely with efforts to enhance universal health coverage, address non-communicable diseases, and develop people-centred and integrated health services. 90076
90073 90027 Creating age-friendly environments.90028 This will require actions to combat ageism, enable autonomy and support Healthy Ageing in all policies and at all levels of government. These activities build on and complement WHO’s work during the past decade to develop age-friendly cities and communities including the development of the Global Network of Age Friendly Cities and Communities and an interactive information sharing platform Age-friendly World. 90076
90073 90027 Improving measurement, monitoring and understanding. 90028 Focused research, new metrics and analytical methods are needed for a wide range of ageing issues.This work builds on the extensive work WHO has done in improving health statistics and information, for example through the WHO Study on global AGEing and adult health (SAGE) 90076
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90004 Despite their lofty job titles and impressive pay, many high-achieving executives feel professionally dissatisfied and unfulfilled. Looking back, they wish they’d accomplished more or even chosen a different career altogether. Often they feel trapped in their jobs. 90005
90004 In this article, Kaplan, a Harvard Business School professor, examines why people arrive at this impasse-and offers them guidance on how to break through it and reach their full potential.That goal is not about getting to the top, he says. Rather, it’s about taking a very personal look at how you define success in your heart of hearts, and then finding your own path there. 90005
90004 To discover your way, you need to step back and reassess your career, recognizing that managing it is your responsibility. Many people feel like victims when, in fact, most career wounds are self-inflicted. Taking control begins with understanding yourself: seeking frank feedback about your strengths and weaknesses from colleagues above and below you, and figuring out what you truly enjoy doing.That understanding-not other people’s definition of success-should guide your career choices and goals. Next, it’s critical to identify the three or four tasks central to your business and make sure you excel at them; otherwise, success is likely to elude you. 90005
90004 Once you’ve chosen the right enterprise, you must show character and leadership. Great executives put the interests of their company and colleagues ahead of their own. They’re willing to speak up, even to voice unpopular views.Many managers hit a plateau because they play it too safe. But those that identify their dreams, develop the skills to realize them, and demonstrate courage will find fulfillment-even if they hit bumps along the way. 90005
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90004 Despite racking up impressive accomplishments, you feel frustrated with your career-convinced you should be achieving more. You may even wish you had chosen a different career altogether. 90005
90004 These feelings often stem from a common error: buying into others ‘definitions of success.To reach your potential, Kaplan suggests taking a deeply personal look at how 90019 you 90020 define success: 90005
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90004 Write down your 2-3 greatest strengths 90019 and 90020 weaknesses. If (like most people) you struggle with identifying key weaknesses, solicit the views of people (peers, direct reports, trusted friends) who will tell you the brutal truth.Ask for very specific feedback ( «How well do I listen?» «What is my leadership style?»). Be receptive to the input you receive. 90005
90004 Then figure out what you truly enjoy doing. What’s your dream job? Resist the lure of a hot field: If you go into it without a strong enthusiasm for the actual work, you may waste a number of years before you admit it’s the wrong job for you. Once you’ve chosen your ideal job, you’ll have to start from scratch. But choosing a field you love gives you strength to weather the inevitable setbacks and long hours needed to reach your full potential in any career.90005
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90004 Identify the 3-4 activities essential for success in your desired or current role. Then develop a plan for excelling in these activities. Example: 90005
90004 A new division head at a large industrial company was struggling to grow sales and profits. Through interviews with staff and customers, he concluded that success in his business hinged on developing close relationships with top customers ‘purchasing managers, putting the right people in critical leadership positions, and staying at the cutting edge of product innovation.He began delegating activities less central to success so he could focus on raising the bar on the three success factors he had identified. Sales and profits improved. 90005
90048 Demonstrate Character and Leadership 90049
90004 Character and leadership make the difference between good and great performance. To demonstrate 90028 character 90029: 90005
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90004 To exhibit 90028 leadership 90029, speak up-even when you’re expressing an unpopular view. Your superiors desperately want dissenting opinions so they can make better choices.If you play it safe instead of asserting your heartfelt opinions, you may hit a plateau in your career. 90005 90004 Ambitious professionals often spend a substantial amount of time thinking about strategies that will help them achieve greater levels of success. They strive for a more impressive job title, higher compensation, and responsibility for more sizable revenues, profits, and numbers of employees. Their definitions of success are often heavily influenced by family, friends, and colleagues.90005
90004 Yet many ultimately find that, despite their efforts and accomplishments, they lack a true sense of professional satisfaction and fulfillment. During my career with Goldman Sachs, as well as over the past few years of teaching and coaching managers and MBA students at Harvard Business School, I have met a surprisingly large number of impressive executives who expressed deep frustration with their careers. They looked back and felt that they should have achieved more or even wished that they had chosen a different career altogether.90005
90004 Consider a very successful research analyst at a large securities firm who came to see me because he was discouraged with his career progress. This was particularly ironic because he was well known, highly regarded (ranked number one in his industry sector), and well compensated. He told me that, after 10 years, he was tired of his job, disliked his boss, and felt he had no potential for further upward mobility. Most of all, he had always wanted to be an investment manager, but he had started out as an analyst and never really reassessed his career path.He felt trapped. He feared losing his stature and did not want to let anyone down, but at the same time he did not want to keep doing what he was doing. 90005
90004 As we talked, he wondered if he’d been so busy trying to reach specific milestones and impress other people that he’d lost sight of what he really enjoyed doing. The truth was that he loved analyzing stocks and assessing management teams, but he also wanted to have the responsibility for making the actual investment decisions and then be held accountable for the results.I encouraged him to take action and speak to a number of investment firms (including his current employer) about a career change. After doing this, he ultimately was offered and accepted a portfolio manager position in the asset management division of his current firm. He learned that his firm’s leaders wanted to retain him regardless of job description and that they were quite surprised to find out he wanted to be on the investment side of the business. He has since become a superb investment manager, and although he wishes he’d stepped back and reexamined his career years earlier, he’s thrilled that he made the switch while there was «still time.»90005
90004 If you are experiencing similar feelings of frustration or even regret about the direction of your career, this article is intended to help you examine the question, «Am I reaching my potential?» This is not the same as asking, «How do I rise to the top?» or «How can I be successful in my career?» Rather, it’s about taking a very personal look at how 90019 you 90020 define success in your heart of hearts and then finding 90019 your 90020 path to get there. 90005
90004 «Am I reaching my potential?» is not the same as asking, «How do I rise to the top?» 90005
90004 To do that, you must step back and reassess your career-starting with the recognition that managing it is your responsibility.Too many people feel like victims in their careers, when in fact they have a substantial degree of control. Seizing control requires you to take a fresh look at your behavior in three main areas: knowing yourself, excelling at critical tasks, and demonstrating character and leadership. 90005
90048 Knowing Yourself 90049
90004 Taking responsibility for your career starts with an accurate assessment of your current skills and performance. Can you write down your two or three greatest strengths and your two or three most significant weaknesses? While most people can detail their strengths, they often struggle to identify key weaknesses.This exercise involves meaningful reflection and, almost always, requires soliciting the views of people who will tell you the brutal truth. Unfortunately, you often can not count on your boss to accurately assess your strengths or to be willing to confront you with what you’re doing wrong. It’s up to you to take control of this process by seeking coaching, asking for very specific feedback, and being receptive to input from a wide variety of people at various levels within your organization. This gathering of feedback needs to be an ongoing process because, as your career progresses, you will face new challenges and demands.90005
90004 Recently I met with a division head of a large professional services firm. Though he’d been a rising star for several years, he felt he’d begun to stagnate. His direct reports and his CEO no longer seemed engaged and enthusiastic in their dealings with him, and he did not know why. In our discussions, he was able to specifically describe his strengths, but when I asked about his weaknesses, he gave me fairly generic responses, such as «Maybe I’m too impatient» and «I need to raise my profile.»When I pressed him about feedback from his boss he still struggled to identify even one specific weakness. I sent him off on an assignment: Interview at least five colleagues and subordinates.
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90004 He returned a few weeks later with several «surprises.» He’d heard, for example, that while he was detail-oriented and decisive, he micromanaged, had a dictatorial style, and failed to listen. Armed with these insights, he sought coaching, started working on his flaws, and began regularly soliciting feedback from his colleagues and subordinates.A year later he reported that his effectiveness had improved as a result of these ongoing efforts, and he was once again feeling confident and optimistic about his career. 90005
90004 This type of initiative takes time, humility, and a willingness to confront weaknesses, fears, and blind spots that many of us would rather ignore. But I never cease to be impressed by the capacity of people to change and improve once they recognize their shortcomings as well as their strengths. 90005
90004 Of course, getting others to tell you where you’re falling short is not easy-particularly if they’re your subordinates.It must be done in one-on-one conversations, and you need to give potential coaches time to learn that you’re sincere. When your employees see you actually act on their feedback, they are likely to become more proactive in offering advice, because they know you value their input. Your subordinates and colleagues will also feel they have a stake in your success and that of your unit-which will make them more likely to enjoy working with you. 90005
90004 Once you have a grip on your strengths and weaknesses, your next challenge is to figure out what you truly enjoy doing.What’s your dream job? How well does it match what you currently do? Many people either do not know what their passions are or are so focused on the views of their peers that they drift into the wrong career. I was recently approached by an MBA student who wanted advice on whether to go work for a hedge fund, a private equity firm, or an investment bank. When asked whether he had an interest in financial markets, he quickly said no. He was not even sure about the key tasks that each of those jobs would entail.When asked what he would do if he had $ 10 million in the bank, however, his answer was very clear: pursue a career in the music industry. He was a concert-level musician and loved the music business. Once he recognized how much he had been swayed by his fellow students ‘bias toward the lucrative financial services industry, he realized he needed to rethink his choices. 90005
90004 The conventional wisdom about the attractiveness of various careers changes constantly. Twenty-five years ago the medical and legal professions were considered financially rewarding and socially desirable.Today, a number of doctors and lawyers are frustrated in their jobs and realize that they might have based their career choices excessively on the views of their peers and popular opinion, instead of on whether they would actually love the work. Hedge funds and private equity are today’s hot fields, but people who go into them without a strong enthusiasm for the actual tasks may find themselves starting from scratch a few years down the line. Loving what you do gives you the strength to weather personal setbacks, overcome adversity, face and address your weaknesses, and work the long hours typically needed to reach your full potential.90005
90048 Excelling at Critical Tasks 90049
90004 It’s very difficult to succeed if you do not excel at the tasks that are central to your chosen enterprise. That sounds painfully simple, but many executives fail to identify the three or four most important activities that lead to success in their job or business. If you’re a medical researcher, the three keys are likely to be conducting cutting-edge research, getting published, and fund-raising. If you manage a large sales force, the crucial tasks might be attracting, retaining, and developing outstanding salespeople; customer segmentation; and client relationship management.If you’re assessing a potential job move, you need to know what will drive success in the new position and, then, ask yourself whether you enjoy those key tasks. In your current job, identifying critical tasks helps you determine how to spend your time and develop your skills. 90005
90004 Promising leaders sometimes lose sight of this connection. Not long ago, a new division head at a large industrial company told me that he was struggling to grow sales and profits. He complained that he was spending too much time fighting fires and did not have enough hours in the day.When I asked him to identify the three main drivers of success in his business, he realized that he was not sure. He spent the next several weeks interviewing staff and customers, and concluded that success in his business depended on developing close relationships with the purchasing managers at each of his top 25 customers, putting the right people in critical sales and manufacturing leadership positions, and staying at the cutting edge of product innovation. He also realized that his division was performing poorly in all three areas.90005
90004 He proceeded to clear his calendar, force himself to delegate tasks that were less central to success, and focus on raising the bar in each of these areas. Six months later he reported that he had replaced a number of executives-including the sales manager and head of product development-and created an executive committee that met weekly to discuss critical business issues. He also reported that he’d become much more disciplined in matching his priorities (and those of his leadership team) with the keys to success for the business.Sales and profits began to improve, and he felt confident that he would resume his upward career trajectory.
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90048 Demonstrating Character and Leadership 90049
90004 While seemingly amorphous, character and leadership often make the difference between good performance and great performance. One measure of character is the degree to which you put the interests of your company and colleagues ahead of your own. Excellent leaders are willing to do things for others without regard to what’s in it for them.They coach and mentor. They have the mindset of an owner and figure out what they would do if they were the ultimate decision maker. They’re willing to make a recommendation that would benefit the organization’s overall performance, possibly to the detriment of their own unit. They have the courage to trust that they will eventually be rewarded, even if their actions may not be in their own short-term interest. 90005
90004 Being a leader also means being willing to speak up, even when you’re expressing an unpopular view.CEOs ‘proposals often generate head nodding, even from people who secretly harbor serious reservations. In reality, most chief executives desperately want dissenting opinions so they can make better choices. While emerging leaders must use good judgment regarding the tone and timing of their dissent, they also need to be aware that they can hit a plateau by playing it safe when they should be asserting their heartfelt opinions. 90005
90004 One CEO recounted to me his regrets over a recent key hire.His top three reports had each interviewed the various job candidates and expressed no major concerns about the final choice. After the new hire was on board-and had begun to struggle-it came to light that two of the three senior managers had privately held significant reservations but concluded that the CEO’s mind was made up and that speaking out was unwise. The CEO was furious. Though he recognized his own role in the mess (he vowed to more actively encourage dissent), he also lowered his opinion of the two executives who failed to express their views.90005
90004 Otherwise confident executives sometimes overestimate the career risk of speaking up and meaningfully underestimate the risk of staying silent. I encourage people to develop various approaches to help them overcome this hesitancy: For example, I’ve counseled emerging executives to save their money to build financial security and to avoid getting too emotionally attached to their jobs. Though it may seem that you’ll never find another great job, you have to have faith that there are many attractive opportunities outside your firm.90005
90004 In some cases, I advise people to become experts in some specific business area in order to build their confidence. I also encourage people to spend more time deciding what they truly believe versus trying to guess what the boss might want to hear. At work, as in competitive sports, you must play with confidence and even a little abandon. I’ve talked to several executives whose finest moments came when they gathered their courage and confidently expressed disagreement with their boss and peers.To their surprise, they found that they were treated with more respect after these episodes. 90005
90004 I have seen many people stall their careers by playing it safe. 90005
90004 Most outstanding CEOs value emerging executives who assert themselves out of genuine concern for what is best for the company. Doing the right thing is a reward in itself-psychologically in the short run and professionally in the longer run. Of course, this approach requires that you have some reasonable level of faith that justice will prevail.I have seldom seen people hurt their careers by speaking up and appropriately articulating a well-thought-out contrary position (even when it was unpopular). However, I have seen many bitter and confused people who stalled their careers by playing it safe. • • • 90005
90004 Every rewarding career will bring ups and downs, bad days, bad weeks, and bad months. Everyone will face setbacks and discouraging situations. Some people abandon their plans when they hit one of these bumps. They lose their way and ultimately undermine their own performance-and the wound is all the more painful because it is self-inflicted.The advice in this article is intended to help you avoid such self-inflicted wounds. There’s nothing anyone can do to prevent you from reaching your potential; the challenge is for you to identify your dream, develop the skills to get there, and exhibit character and leadership. Then, you need to have the courage to periodically reassess, make adjustments, and pursue a course that reflects who you truly are. 90005 A version of this article appeared in the July-August 2008 issue of 90019 Harvard Business Review 90020..
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